How to become his wife before he only wants a girlfriend?
Every man regardless of the stage in life he is in desires some form of companionship. When men are pursuing multiple relationships with different women, it may not be that he wants everything he sees; it may suggest what he sees is not everything he wants. Ladies, every man wants to feel as if he has the perfect woman, now this does not mean she does everything well, but rather in his eyes she is complete.
A complete woman in his eyes is a woman that has value to him. Something is of value when it is irreplaceable, just like a rare piece of jewelry or a famous designer who makes one of each style gown; they are valuable because they are one of a kind. People always cherish those things that are valuable to them and would do almost anything to secure and protect it. Ladies when a man recognize your value or rarity the thought of another having you would seem as a great loss.
There are several things you must know if you intend to be recognized as ‘wife material’ and not another girlfriend of friend with benefits.
1. When a man meets you for the very first time he says one of two things; ‘I think I could get that’ or ‘I wonder if she would be interested in me’? The first phrase often suggest that the woman is either below or similar to the type/class/ attitude/ mannerisms of women he had dated before and view these women as easy catch. The second phrase usually suggest that the woman appears to be out of his league or perhaps more attractive/ more intelligent or more independent than the women he has dated in the Past. Ladies your first impression is a lasting impression, it may determine the intention of the men who approach you. Whenever a woman knows who she is, it always makes the man question his intentions. When the man begins to question his own motives it is because you appear rare.
2. How you make a man feel determines the extent to which he will protect, grow and preserve the relationship. Ladies, most logical thinking men wants a woman who knows how to be a teacher as well as a student in the relationship. If you are one who listens to him and you learn to trust his decisions not being overly critical, like a teacher he feels as if he is being received well. Also, if you are a person who is willing to teach him things he may not know and help him achieve goals without demeaning him; he becomes your student. By the way you make him feel he’ll determine early in the relationship if you’re going to be his wife.
3. Everyman decides the possibilities of spending forever with someone within the first month. So how do you know when a man sees more of a wife than a girlfriend in you? Firstly there is the obvious family and friends, have you ever heard the term ‘she’s a keeper’. When a man introduces a woman very early in the relationship to his family this is often a good sign. When a man introduces a woman to his work colleagues early in the relationship this is also a good sign. Ladies the most important way in which you are able to determine whether you’re a soon-to-be wife or an on-going girlfriend is his level of trust in you. Generally people reserve the most traumatic, embarrassing, hurtful and deeply rooted secrets for people whom they trust. When he starts telling you his most intimate details then you are well on your way to matrimony.
4. And Lastly If at any point in the relationship he prays with you, for you or ask you to pray for him; then congratulations on your engagement.
“If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.”
― Greg Behrendt, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
By Jamal Archer.